My dear friend Catherine and I have been called to help anyone who has faced a pregnancy or infant loss. What grew out of that was Good Grief - a workshop for those struggling to cope. We offer an afternoon of rest, restoration and connection with others. Our next event is coming up November 11, 2017 and you can register here on my site under "Workshops."
I was lucky enough to attend a Return To Zero retreat in 2015 on Whidbey Island, WA. It was there I met Carly Marie who shared her beautiful poetry, music and stories with us. Carly Marie is a very talented artist who has created a beautiful world of support for all parents who have faced the loss of pregnancy or an infant. You can check out more on her site here: http://carlymarieprojectheal.com/
Every October, Carly hosts an online event called "Capture Your Grief." It's a mindful healing project where for 31 days you engage in acts and share a photo, artwork, video or written word that captures your own journey. It's a wonderful way to connect with yourself in a beautiful way and stay open to the journey you are on as someone grieving. Since it's an online project, it's also a natural way to connect with others going through similar journeys. In 2016 I decided to do it and share widely on Facebook for all to see. I am NOT the type of person to share that much over such a public platform, but I did it and it felt good. Others got to see my process for 31 days and I myself got to mindfully focus each day on something beautiful.
If you feel called to join in, here is the link to the 2017 project: http://carlymarieprojectheal.com/capture-your-grief-2017
It's October and it is SIDS, pregnancy loss, and infant loss awareness month. It always catches me by surprise when it rolls around. What am I supposed to do? Am I supposed to advocate and speak up and share? I never know quite what to do. I guess the way I see it is, I spend the entire year in conversations with others talking about my journey, so I am making others aware year round. It's so important for people to understand what real life looks like. That pregnancy and babies can be a dark subject for many. With being as honest as I am, I come across women who open up and share their experience because I did the same. By sharing, we are removing a bit of the pain and validating to the world that sometimes SHIT HAPPENS! We should never succumb to a society that says your grief has no place here. That is BS. My world has and had grief in it and I will always carry that with me. More often, I will share the transformation I experienced as a result of the grief. It's maybe my superpower now and by sharing it, I am allowing others to do the same. THAT is healing.
Catherine and I met at a healing retreat on Whidbey Island September of 2015. The retreat was for those women who needed it after the loss of a pregnancy, a baby at birth or an infant death. We spent a sacred 4 days together bonding with the other women and finding a tribe who made us feel at home with our grieving thoughts. Catherine came and did yoga with us ladies and provided us with a bright beautiful energy. Since then, Catherine and I have been trying to find a way to continue the grief work and share it with others. We have had conversations about being called to do this work together, and we are both feeling a need to use our gifts to help others. If you or anyone you know has faced a pregnancy or infant loss, we are having our first Circle of Healing event October 20th, 2016. Sending you much love and light wherever you are on life's journey.
I was graciously asked to sing & speak at Plymouth Church Seattle for their SPARK series. I touched upon my personal journey and the transformation I have experienced.
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Here is my wish for you this holiday season.
My son James showed me how blindingly beautiful life is and that it's within simple gratitude we find our peace. The distractions and stress of life have the ability to cloud our vision and muffle our hearts. These are things that we know don't serve our best self and can get in the way of our heart's compass. So this holiday season I pray you can shut that distraction out and find simplicity within your life. Create quiet moments to be with your heart and seek out beauty and wonder. I want you to reflect upon the beautiful blessings you've have been bestowed -to discover gratitude in the most basic necessities of a working stove, a warm bed to sleep in, food in your fridge, shoes for your feet, and if you're super lucky, you have money in the bank.
We all have adversity in our lives and it's within these challenges that we're offered up the opportunity for healing. Whether it's taken or not doesn't matter, it's the fact life has given you a beautiful opportunity for healing and transformation. For it's through this healing we heal ourselves, which heals our community, and heals the world. Please know you are the most beautiful and radiant beings full of talent, joy and hope. Spread the love and help your fellow man. Afterall, we are in this together.